Coffee Talk: Of Social Media and Privacy

I thought of writing some random topics (actually, 90% rants) today which probably required you to take either a cup of Coffee or Tea while reading it. Lets call this random topic post as “Coffee Talk”, shall we? Pretty appropriate title since this topic also came out during one of the Cafe’ gathering I had with friends while talking about social media, privacy and whatnot.

Social media have become a huge platform. Not only for publicity, marketing and business but also for others to judge you based on what you have posted online.

Other than that, its also become a “disease” of comparing yourselves with others online. Especially if you are in the same age group but the other person is striving and happily settled down and having kids. I personally feel like I didn’t do well in life because almost everyone in my age group started posting about wedding, having husband and growing family while yours truly is still juggling between works and long distance relationship.

Back to the topic of social media, where it also become a platform for judgmental and super nosy people around. A friend of mine quickly nod in agreements on this one. When I shared to them why I no longer post consistently or reluctant to share where I go or with who, is because of nosy people which I had regretfully approved in my social media accounts. When I started working 5 years ago, I make myself very clear to separate a working life with personal one. Whatever I did outside the working hours should never ever go back and circulating inside the office.

I truly value my privacy of personal life. I always weigh in full consideration of what’s consequences that I will face later on if I posted something “online”.

My work place is great but some people there are not – really – great. They should really learn to respect other people boundaries. There was one time when I applied leave for holiday and everyone are asking where I will go and suddenly someone blurted out this statement “Later we will know when you’ve posted in your Instagram/Facebook”. Its shock me but I guess that makes me stop, start to think and suddenly I feel uncomfortable to post about my holiday online.

I know some of you may said “It’s your social media, you post whatever you like. Screw those nosy and judgmental people”. I get it guys. I also wanted to unfriend those nosy people BUT for the sake of keeping a good “colleagues and co-workers” relationship, I hesitate. You have no ideas how fast the rumors fly when I did not approve one of the nosy people follow request recently.

As for now, I’m comfortable sharing some personal life in my blog (hey, I put my blog under personal & lifestyle category) while still happily guarding some of my privacy. Finally, not everything is meant for the world to see. No hating toward those who love to share it all online though, you do you! Cheers!


Till then, Fay x


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  • beatyjohn

    i was once ask my sisters to regularly update her instagram but she reply me ‘ eh malas sa instagram, macam main lumba2 like saja sana tu’ .. i was errr.. but sometimes i do feel macam tu juga actually..its a matter of preference actually.. tp some ppl kan kadang too over the top …

    November 8, 2017 at 6:41 AM Reply
    • Frydolina Fay

      Yes, agreed. I think it’s depend on personal preference juga. Sometime sy ikut mood, kalau OK, ada juga sy post personal tapi nowadays sejak approve those “jaga kain” punya orang kan..punya la malas mau update..adididi

      November 11, 2017 at 5:38 AM Reply


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